7 Signs that You Need Self-Care

How you know you need self care? When do you know you’ve been pushed too far? And what do you do about it when it happens?

Moms are known for being the worst at indulging in some self-care.  As soon as we’re given that tiny bundle of joy, we immediately begin to sacrifice…time, sleep, focus, going out, clean laundry, a decent meal. The problem is that over time….that much selfless giving turns into MonsterMom. Trust me, I’ve been there, and she ain’t pretty. You truly aren’t doing the best for your kids if you don’t take care of yourself first.

So here are 8 signs that you might be in need of a little time for yourself.

You’re reaching for the coffee 5 times a day.

When you’re just completely drained and relying on other means to keep you going, you need not only some more sleep, but a good dose of good nutrition and exercise to boost your natural energy boosters.

You’re thinking of the 1 million things you have to do.

We’re always going to have a list.  But if you can’t turn it off and relax, that’s when you’re going to get yourself into trouble.

It’s been 3 days since your last shower.

Now it’s one thing if you just naturally smell of roses, but for me…if I haven’t showered in 3 days, it’s more likely mama neglect.  And trust me, the people around you will be thankful you’ve practiced a little self-care too.

Exercise consists of pacing back and forth to get the baby to sleep.

Where can we squeeze in 30 minutes of exercise, right? I get it. I remember asking if walking at work would suffice as working out (the consensus was “no” btw). Boosting your activity just a little bit can do wonders for your energy, confidence, sleep, and strength.

You’re bouncing between #allthethings and not getting anything accomplished.

Call it “chasing shiny objects” or “SQUIRREL!” or just simply “juggling it all,” it’s all the same.  It’s called multi-tasking.  And man on man does research show that it just doesn’t work.  Focus, mama! You need to take a few breaks and focus on just one task so that you can actually get something done.

You’re easily snappy at the hubs and the kids.

Well, hello, monster mom. And not just the time of the month monster mom. But the monster mom all-the-time-mom.  When those little things, like the finger prints on the windows really irk you….When you start to get on your kids for their mistakes instead of giving them a little bit of grace.

Each day feels like another day on the hamster wheel.

I whole heartedly believe that you and I were both made to live and love to our utmost potential.  I don’t believe life is meant to be “just lived.”  I believed we’re made to live in abundance and excitement.  When you start to dread waking the next morning…you need to take a little reset.

 

If you said “yes” to any of these, you need to go read my post a few weeks ago….9 Tips to Avoid #mamaOverwhelmed.

And share this post with someone who needs a little TLC.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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9 Tips To Stop Being #mamaOverwhelmed

We all here know self-care is important, but do we REALLY believe it. When you’re sitting there with baby spit up on your shirt, a toddler pooping on the floor, and no dinner on the table….thinking about self-care can be, well….nearly impossible.

But let me be honest with you mama…..I’ve been there. Exhausted. Wiped out. Depleted.  Running on caffeine.  Feeling like I was going to lose my freaking mind! I wanted to run away.  I found myself in tears on numerous occasions.  And I will admit, I locked myself in the bedroom door and left my kids to fend for themselves for awhile cause I was going to lose it.

Self-care is most important when we feel like it’s the last thing we can squeeze into life.

It doesn’t need to be a spa day away (although that would be nice). And it doesn’t need to be an evening out with the girlfriends (not going to dig that one either!)

But it needs to be consistent. Something that is a no-brainer win. Something that doesn’t take all day, but still leaves you feeling full and ready to go.

So here are my top 10 self-care practices that you can totally do.

Breathe.

This one may seem super simple and like “duh.” But you’d be surprised what a few deep breaths can do for your inner mama soul. It’s easy to take with you (cause your lungs ain’t leavin’) and can be done in seconds. Give it a little more and do it with your eyes close.

Meditate.

Pray. Meditate. Whichever you feel more inclined to.  Both allow you to be still, practice your inner calm, and focus on who you want to be.  Want to be a little more peaceful? Focus your prayer time towards that. Doing this first thing in the morning can have 10x the impact. And, I know you may not like it, BUT which means you may have to get up earlier.  The way you start your day sets the tone for the rest of the day. We’ve both had those days when you wake late, you spill your coffee, and you can’t get it together for THE rest of the day. Your energy started in a not so great spot…..so take control of those first few moments of the day.

Move Your Body.

Not only can you tone up that mom bod and feel good rocking a bikini, but you can release some serious energy boosts and endorphin rushes. You’ll be able to play with your kids easier, feel less out of breath, and feel more confident in yourself. And all that sweat and muscle building can play a big factor in reducing cortisol (that nasty stress hormone that can wreck havoc on your body & your sanity). P.S.-If you want 1:1 support with your health, check out #Nourished.

Eat Wholesome.

Those granola bars you grab and snack on cause their great for on the go, and the few bites of the kids leftover food that you are eating….are killing your energy.  The sluggish, exhausted, grab your 5th cup of coffee feeling….that we all want to rid of comes not just from the crazy amount of going that we need to keep up with the kids, but also from what we fuel our bodies with. Give it a clean diet and watch the energy increase (and maybe a few pounds will take a hike too!) P.S.-If you want 1:1 support with your health, check out #Nourished.

Say No.

It’s a hard one. I get it. I’m a doer too. But in order to be able to give my best to the people that mean the most (me and my family), I had to say no to some things.  Make yourself a priority scale. On the top of the scale, you put “absolutely wouldn’t miss it for the world, means the most to me” and on the bottom “I wouldn’t really realize if I missed it.” When you have a new opportunity or invite, evaluate where it falls on that scale.  Take into account the impact missing or attending would have on those that mean the most to you too.

Say Thanks.

When your kids are throwing themselves on the floor in the middle of Target, it can sometimes be a little challenging to keep your cool. The looks. The staring. It can make nearly ANY mom want to cringe and run. But try this out for me. Next time things are going less than stellar, take a moment and find something to be thankful for. And there’s ALWAYS something. Finding something to be grateful for can instantly change your focus and energy. I’d also encouraging writing down things you’re thankful for each night too. Kids are blessings, even when it feels like they are running our lives. When we start to reframe and focus on that…we can bring a little more calm and wellness to our souls.

Unplug.

The world WILL survive if you turn your phone off for a little while. Better yet, get out in nature and take a stroll. The outdoors and the “not being ON” with your phone can completely change your day. Going to the park with the kids while leaving the phone can behind can give both you and the kiddos some moments we tenderly need.

Get Creative.

You could draw, read a book, take some photos, paint. Whatever you enjoy that gives you a chance to focus on something creative.

Declutter.

The clutter reality is real. It creates anxiety, stress, and overwhelm.  We go to Target and immediately see all the really cool holiday and house decor that they so conveniently change out on a nearly weekly basis and think “I need this! This is beautiful.” Then it comes to our house, and it becomes something we have to clean, store, fix, and take care of.  Clear out some space. Learn to stop buying more.  Less IS more. Living a decluttered life can bring so much freedom to your life. Need more support with decluttering, check out my FREE 5 Steps to Break Free From Clutter.

 

And lastly, know that if you feel overwhelmed….it’s ok! Just take one step at a time to free yourself from overwhelm!

Comment below with something that you struggle with in regards to mama self care?

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Secret to Saving Kids Artwork without Clutter

What the heck do we do with all the pictures, drawings, school projects, and little gifts from our kids? I mean, I love them all but my daughter’s love language is gifts.  So we are ALWAYS getting special pictures, drawings, or crafts from her because that’s her way of showing how she loves us.  But I’m on a journey to eliminating clutter from my life.  I want more space.  I want a chance to breathe and not feel like I’m CONSTANTLY cleaning.  Is it wrong to want a clean house AND be able to enjoy time with my kids?

I saw somewhere a picture of a triangle that showed mom’s sanity, a clean house, and happy kids on each of the points.  The meme stated, you can only choose 2, which 2 are you going to choose.  For a long time, hands down, I wanted happy kids and happy mom to be my choice.  But you know what I realized….a clean house was a HUGE contributor to my sanity.  I don’t think you have to choose between the 3. I think you CAN have a balance of all 3.

So in my quest to eliminate stuff without losing the memories (or breaking my dear daughter’s heart), I found an app called Keepy. It’s been amazing.  It has both a free and a paid version (with the amount of drawings we get, I totally bought the paid version).

You can take snapshots of your children’s drawings, crafts, projects, whatever and store them. You can have multiple kids all stored in the same account. You can store voice recordings of your child telling you about the picture or take a picture of your child holding the drawing so you can document age too. And best! You can add “Fans” so grandparents, aunts, uncles, and friends can see all the magical drawings and leave messages too.

 

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It’s definitely a timeless way to preserve and capture memories without all the clutter.  And if you did want to print all of it in a book, they make it pretty seamless too with having photobook  and other photo gift options (although I haven’t tried that part yet).

If you haven’t snagged a copy of my FREE 5 Steps to Breaking Free From Clutter, you should totally do that! Breaking free from clutter has changed my life. I finally feel like I can enjoy time with my kids because I’m not spending day in and day out picking stuff up.