The Secret to Getting What You Want

How many times have you wanted something more? New car? A baby? To go to work? To stay home? An extra vacation?

I can raise my hand and say I’m right there with you.  That grass is always greener on the other side mentality can be a real doozie to beat.  We see our neighbors with the new boat and the new car and think, “why geesh…I want that too!” We buy a new house and it’s not long before we wish we had a different one…a bigger more fancy one.

The problem with this…

It puts us in a state of want and need.  That’s no good. We end up operating from a state of lack. Like what we have isn’t good enough. We lose our gratitude. We lose our contentment.  It robs us of our joy.

So the remedy…

  1. Practice Gratitude
  2. Give freely
  3. Bless those who have what you want

There isn’t a quicker way to finding joy, happiness, and contentment than through gratitude and shifting your mind to believing your life is abundant.  When you hold onto things or money like you’re supply is going to run out, you hoard.  You begin to hold on to it. And when you hold on….more stops coming to you and you begin to lose the joy and contentment.

Being thankful for what you have puts you in a place of feeling abundant.  You begin to give more, live more, and be more satisfied.

This morning I read this verse in my Bible.

“If you give to others, you will be given a full amount in return.  It will be packed down, shaken together, and spilling over into your lap.  The way you treat others is the way you will be treated.” Luke 6:38, CEV

Sometimes I read about gratitude, mindfulness, and the law of attraction and feel like it’s venturing into a little bit of the woo-woo territory. Like how does our minds really have that much impact on our lives.  Then I read a scripture like this and it all comes together.

xoxo- Renae

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5 Myths of Decluttering that Hold Us Back From Freedom

“If I have a clean house, I’m neglecting my Kids”

I’ve been there in the throes of balancing a toddler in the flour bin, a preschooler with legos all over the kitchen table, and my eldest painting my bathroom sink with soapy water. While you’re cleaning one mess, another one is being created. When the tornado of kid just ravages through….it can be down right exhausting. But when we start to get rid of the stuff we’re constantly spending our time cleaning, we have less stuff to pick up. And then…you now magically have more time to spend with your kids. Less stuff=cleaner house+happy kids….truly

“But I can’t get rid of this because I may need it someday”

I throw my hands up guilty about this one! Frugal to my core. Between me and my husband, we’d save anything, clip any coupon, find any deal, you name it to save a quick buck. And we could still never get ahead. But there’s this funny thing about gratitude, abundance, and the universe. When we act out of a place of lack, we lose trust that we’ll be taken care of, we don’t give freely of our time and money to others, and we start to hoard. Trust me when I say….gratitude and trusting that you will have all of your needs met is a WAY better place to be. God has always pulled through in some way for me. Holding on to things “just in case” shows my lack of trust in his provision.

“But this has sentimental value…it’s irreplaceable” 

I’m a memory fiend. And I LOVE pictures…so I take a LOT. I’ve found a few simple ways to save my memories through film. But what about those baby books, locks of hair, passed down china? What do we do with those? Some of these things TRULY may be irreplaceable….(like a lock of hair from your baby’s first haircut). But what joy are they bringing you each day? Or what joy will they bring you in the future. We tuck these treasures away. They’re out of sight and out of mind till we stumble across that box full of stuff and then back into the box they go again.  If you really can’t part with it, place it out on display. Make it something you can see and enjoy each day.

“I have to keep it because it was a gift”

When I give a gift, I want that person to love it. And if they don’t, I want them to feel like there’s no hard feelings in exchanging it, taking it back, or passing it along. What’s the point in keeping a gift that you won’t use or love? 99% of the time, the gift giver would rather you love and enjoy your gift than hold onto something just because they gave it to you. Acknowledge that they showed their love to you in GIVING you a gift, not in the actual gift itself. And next time you need to give a gift to someone…re-evaluate if it’s a gift you think they will truly love or if you’re just giving it out of obligation.  If it’s out of obligation…..scratch it and avoid adding clutter to their life.

“It takes so much time to declutter because I have to be so organized and that just ain’t me”

Cleaning takes a ton of time…but decluttering….well, it has a lot of time on the front end but AFTER you’ve created some space and got rid of the stuff that’s filling up random spaces in your home, that’s when you start to realize the freedom you gain. This is NOT about just reorganizing your stuff and having a cutesy little system in place. While being organized is helpful, it has more to do with getting rid of the stuff that weighs you down in the first place. And when you get rid of stuff, you clean less, and when you clean less, you have more time, and when you have more time you’re able to do the things that make you happier, and when you do the things that make you happy, you love life!

What are some of your objections to decluttering?

Have you downloaded my Free 5 Steps to Declutter PDF yet?

xoxo

Renae

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10 Go-To Travel Activities for Toddlers to Elementary Kids

Traveling with kids this week?

It can be downright craziness! It can literally make any sane parent want to pull their hair out. It can go seemlessly, or it can go down like my last trip….1 million potty breaks, baby crying endlessly, parents rotating sitting in the back consoling said baby, and snacks smashed into the seats.

But whether you’re flying or driving…there are a few activities to make it go a little easier.

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  1. Magnetic Dress Up Dolls: We’ve used so many different ones and even as young as 3 my daughter enjoyed playing with these dress up boards.
  2. Block beads: My kids as young as 1 year old can self-entertain with these beads for awhile. There are alphabet ones, farm ones, butterfly ones, and  more to fit your child’s interest.
  3. Aqua Doodle: A super simple way to allow your kids to draw without the worry of crayons or markers in the car.
  4. Imaginary Ink: Along the same lines as the aqua doodle, imaginary ink pads and magic markers can be great options for mess free coloring.
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  6. Wikki Stix: I love these for a variety of reasons. I use them in my work as an OT and love that kids can create letters, animals, and so much more with them.
  7. Melissa & Doug Reuseable Sticker Pads: My kids love stickers. And reuseable ones make it even longer lasting entertainment.
  8. Finger Puppets: I don’t know about your kids, but my kids can sit and talk for hours….especially when they can let their fingers talk to their other fingers.
  9. Lacing Cards: Geared towards the older toddler
  10. Busy Bags: Cards, pipe cleaners, popsicle sticks, plastic spoons, and many other objects can keep a toddler-elementary aged child busy (at least for a little while!)
  11. Bonus Tips: Lots of snacks! Food always keeps my kiddos entertained!

I’d love to hear if you have any other go to activities. And yes, these are all inspired by my OT mama brain too!

Regardless of wherever you are going or how you are traveling, I hope you have a Merry Christmas!

xoxo-

renae

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Need a date night?

Totally in need of a date night, ya?

Would you say a date night is a necessity or luxury? When was the last time you had a date night?

Let’s be real….planning it, getting a babysitter, going out, it just sounds so overwhelming.  I want to enjoy the time out with my hubs but I want the relaxation….I want the connection. I want the intention of spending time with him without all the headache and stress.

In walks Date In a Box. I saw this pop up on my instagram feed and LOVED the idea immediately. Um, yes! All the date makings arriving in a box at my door? Sign me up! And I have to admit, it was so fun!

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So after the kids were in bed….we snuggled up on the couch, turned on the spotify playlist that came with the date, lit the candle, simmered up the spiced tea, and connected.

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It wasn’t elaborate.  It wasn’t a fancy dinner (although there were suggestions for a dinner you can access on their website) and it wasn’t a night out. But it was a great way to connect and have a date night in!

8 Clutterfree Memory Making Christmas Gift Ideas

I love this season of Christmas! I love all the excitement, the decor, the community, the food….all of it. But being totally honest with you…..I don’t love all the stuff. And the excessive need to feel like I have to spend money and that I have to buy more.

The last few years, I’ve tried to cut back on the amount of gifts I buy my kids and it still seems like it was too much. The kids were over unwrapping presents before they were even done and without a doubt they would find the 1-2 things they loved the most, and the rest of the toys or gifts would go piled up in the corner untouched. It felt so wasteful.

But I wanted something more….

I think what I love most about Christmas is the time with my family…the traditions we’ve made. We bought an advent calendar that we put little activities to do in each day for the month of December. Each day we do something different. It ranges from making paper snowflakes to going to the live reenactment of Jerusalem to buying a gift for someone in need and giving it away. THESE are the things I love about this holiday season. The moments together that we will treasure forever.

So I wanted to share with you some ideas…if you are like me…..so over the clutter, cleaning up the toys a few days after Christmas If you are ready to trade the frantic anxiousness of buying for everyone on your list, and scrambling to get a gift for the random person that gave you one that you didn’t get a gift for first….for doing something different. You want to FEEL this season and love spending time with your family.To relax, sing carols, sip on cocoa, and watch your children’s face light up with wonder and awe…..And to give the very best to your family? That very best thing is YOU!

So slow down…put the shopping on hold and find some ways to love your family differently this holiday season. Here are a few gift ideas that go beyond the culture of buying

  • A weekend getaway
  • A membership to the zoo, the amusement park, museum, rock climbing gym, or whatever
  • Tickets to a concert, play or theatre
  • The gift of experience with activities such as horseback riding lessons, music lessons, swim classes, art classes
  • Passes to national or state parks
  • Kids Night In Box Subscription
  • A trip to the spa (even young girls would love getting a mani and pedi with you)
  • Paint your own pottery night

I guess overall….it’s about embracing the spirit of gratitude and giving more than receiving. But instead of giving tangible gifts….it’s giving the gift of your time. That is THE most valuable gift you can give.

11 Rocking Gift Ideas for the Fitness Lover in your Life

Yup, Christmas is right around the corner. And it’s coming with full force. Being a mama and a fitness lover, and also on a path to semi-minimalism, I want any gifts I give or recommend to be FULLY functional and useful. But it’s also fun to have a little pizzazz!

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  1. Hydroflask A good water bottle is essential! We need so much water in a day and if we LOVE what we’re drinking from, we’ll drink way more! Straws are always my favorite!
  2. New Workout Clothes I’m simple and frugal most the time but I love getting a pair of nice new leggings, sports bra, or tank. And lululemon and athleta both have amazing workout wear!
  3. Colored & Coated Barbell  I mean really? These weights just make me want to go lift!
  4. Beachbody on Demand This is THE way to go for fitness and sanity for a mom with young kids. No worries about child care and moms can not only feel better physically, gain more energy, but also create some space for a little self care.
  5. Yoga Mat One thing I’ve learned is that, yoga mats can get dirty, stinky and a little beat up over time. Getting a fresh new one is always fun!
  6. Recover and Energize Performance Supplements This pair of supplements gives me both energy without the jitters of caffeine and helps my muscles recover after a difficult workout. Like, when I know I’ve pushed it hard, I ALWAYS drink Recover!
  7. Foam Roller I didn’t get this tool at first. But when effectively used….oh man! It can stretch out the myofascia and muscles and help you recover and push harder!
  8. Shakeology Ok….this IS my secret weapon for curbing cravings. It’s more than a protein drink and is intended to fill your body with dense superfoods nutrition so that you can get more out of your workouts and well, just life in general.
  9. Resistance Loops and Bands These are simple, easy, light weight, and SUPER effective! They are super great for the traveling fitness fan as well as anyone just wanting to step up their game!
  10. Massage or Pedicure: This always goes a long way with any fitness lover!
  11.  Doterra Deep Blue This stuff feels like icy hot but it’s made with essential oils! It soothes those deep achy muscles like nothing else! And the smell is just blissful!And whenever shopping online, make sure you use EBATES. Not only do you get cash back but they’ll search for any coupon codes for you. It’s super awesome!

    What would be on your wishlist?

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Perfect Gifts for the Mom with Young Kids

Alrighty, we all know that moms usually aren’t the focus of Christmas. We love to give to our kids and others around us. But we love to feel valued too! These have been some of my FAVORITE things this last year and think any mom with young kids in your life will love these gifts this Christmas.

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  1. Instant Pot I never thought I’d need this. It was just one extra kitchen tool. But I was sooo wrong. It has replaced so many other kitchen tools (crockpot, rice cooker, yogurt maker, etc) that it has actually resulted in less clutter and ease. And let’s be real, we all need some easy meals (hence why we love using the crockpot). But have you ever noticed that sometimes crockpot meals just meld together and turn to mush?? When I use the pressure cooking setting on my Instant Pot, it doesn’t turn out that way. But you still get the melt off the bone sort of juiciness.
  2. Roomba Vacuum There have been mixed reviews regarding a robot vacuum because it does take some extra prep work (i.e. making sure no cords or toys are on the floor). BUT with 2 dogs and 3 kids, there is NO way I can keep up with the floor as often as it needs.  So while it may not be 100% effective, I can run it multiple times a day and tackle the ongoing floor mess without having to sweep non-stop.
  3. Bravva Mop Same goes for this one. This has become sort of a nightly routine.  Kids go to bed, toys are off the floor and away, and I turn the mop on and let it do it’s thing.  Then it frees me up to do things I want to do.  Every so often I still love to go through manually and do a mop job with my manual mop but this is so easy to keep up with.
  4. Canon Rebel Let’s be real….I love photos! And Mixbook often gets lots of my business printing up those photos into beautiful photobooks. I love my Canon 6D and loved the versatility (and pricepoint) of the rebel when I first started capturing moments. And our kids grow sooooo fast, we want to capture those moments.
  5. Date Night This is totally new to me but I’m super excited about it. My  first date night is on it’s way to me. It can be so hard for couples to get a night out, or even plan a date night in. So you can make it a priority by having those dates delivered right to you on a monthly basis. They have a Kids Night in and Faith Night in too!
  6. Beachbody on Demand This is THE way to go for fitness and sanity for a mom with young kids. No worries about child care and moms can not only feel better physically, gain more energy, but also create some space for a little self care.
  7. Massage or Pedicure: This always goes a long way with a mom of young kids! Especially if they don’t have to arrange childcare to go!
  8. Brazen or The Miracle Morning or Present over Perfect have been 2 of the most life changing books for me!
  9. Lipsense This stuff is AH-mazing! It’s lipstick that stays on all day long. It makes any mom feel dressed up and yet still totally kiss and snuggle proof.
  10. Wine Club I’m not a huge alcohol drinker but I do love relaxing with my hubs after the kids are in bed and drinking a nice glass of wine. (Discount for Black Friday weekend is 4 pack for price of 2!)
  11. Amazon PRIME OMG! I’m guessing every mom already has this but if she doesn’t it has been such a lifesaver for me. So many times I’ve ordered diapers or diaper cream or whatever and had it at my door the next day without having to load 3 kids in the car. It’s been especially helpful when we get sick and I try to not leave the house. (And the link gets you a discount on the monthly membership…like $5.99 for qualifying members).
  12. Kindle Paperwhite I admit this is one that I do not have but being that I love reading and spend so much money on books I would totally get this one!

And whenever shopping online, make sure you use EBATES. Not only do you get cash back but they’ll search for any coupon codes for you. It’s super awesome!

What would be on your wishlist?

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Affiliate Disclosure: I’m a huge believer in transparency and authenticity and so I am disclosing that I’ve included certain products and links to those products on this site that I will earn an affiliate commission for any purchases you make. These commissions help enable me to provide more and expand my services for you! So thanks for your support!