7 Signs that You Need Self-Care

How you know you need self care? When do you know you’ve been pushed too far? And what do you do about it when it happens?

Moms are known for being the worst at indulging in some self-care.  As soon as we’re given that tiny bundle of joy, we immediately begin to sacrifice…time, sleep, focus, going out, clean laundry, a decent meal. The problem is that over time….that much selfless giving turns into MonsterMom. Trust me, I’ve been there, and she ain’t pretty. You truly aren’t doing the best for your kids if you don’t take care of yourself first.

So here are 8 signs that you might be in need of a little time for yourself.

You’re reaching for the coffee 5 times a day.

When you’re just completely drained and relying on other means to keep you going, you need not only some more sleep, but a good dose of good nutrition and exercise to boost your natural energy boosters.

You’re thinking of the 1 million things you have to do.

We’re always going to have a list.  But if you can’t turn it off and relax, that’s when you’re going to get yourself into trouble.

It’s been 3 days since your last shower.

Now it’s one thing if you just naturally smell of roses, but for me…if I haven’t showered in 3 days, it’s more likely mama neglect.  And trust me, the people around you will be thankful you’ve practiced a little self-care too.

Exercise consists of pacing back and forth to get the baby to sleep.

Where can we squeeze in 30 minutes of exercise, right? I get it. I remember asking if walking at work would suffice as working out (the consensus was “no” btw). Boosting your activity just a little bit can do wonders for your energy, confidence, sleep, and strength.

You’re bouncing between #allthethings and not getting anything accomplished.

Call it “chasing shiny objects” or “SQUIRREL!” or just simply “juggling it all,” it’s all the same.  It’s called multi-tasking.  And man on man does research show that it just doesn’t work.  Focus, mama! You need to take a few breaks and focus on just one task so that you can actually get something done.

You’re easily snappy at the hubs and the kids.

Well, hello, monster mom. And not just the time of the month monster mom. But the monster mom all-the-time-mom.  When those little things, like the finger prints on the windows really irk you….When you start to get on your kids for their mistakes instead of giving them a little bit of grace.

Each day feels like another day on the hamster wheel.

I whole heartedly believe that you and I were both made to live and love to our utmost potential.  I don’t believe life is meant to be “just lived.”  I believed we’re made to live in abundance and excitement.  When you start to dread waking the next morning…you need to take a little reset.

 

If you said “yes” to any of these, you need to go read my post a few weeks ago….9 Tips to Avoid #mamaOverwhelmed.

And share this post with someone who needs a little TLC.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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9 Tips To Stop Being #mamaOverwhelmed

We all here know self-care is important, but do we REALLY believe it. When you’re sitting there with baby spit up on your shirt, a toddler pooping on the floor, and no dinner on the table….thinking about self-care can be, well….nearly impossible.

But let me be honest with you mama…..I’ve been there. Exhausted. Wiped out. Depleted.  Running on caffeine.  Feeling like I was going to lose my freaking mind! I wanted to run away.  I found myself in tears on numerous occasions.  And I will admit, I locked myself in the bedroom door and left my kids to fend for themselves for awhile cause I was going to lose it.

Self-care is most important when we feel like it’s the last thing we can squeeze into life.

It doesn’t need to be a spa day away (although that would be nice). And it doesn’t need to be an evening out with the girlfriends (not going to dig that one either!)

But it needs to be consistent. Something that is a no-brainer win. Something that doesn’t take all day, but still leaves you feeling full and ready to go.

So here are my top 10 self-care practices that you can totally do.

Breathe.

This one may seem super simple and like “duh.” But you’d be surprised what a few deep breaths can do for your inner mama soul. It’s easy to take with you (cause your lungs ain’t leavin’) and can be done in seconds. Give it a little more and do it with your eyes close.

Meditate.

Pray. Meditate. Whichever you feel more inclined to.  Both allow you to be still, practice your inner calm, and focus on who you want to be.  Want to be a little more peaceful? Focus your prayer time towards that. Doing this first thing in the morning can have 10x the impact. And, I know you may not like it, BUT which means you may have to get up earlier.  The way you start your day sets the tone for the rest of the day. We’ve both had those days when you wake late, you spill your coffee, and you can’t get it together for THE rest of the day. Your energy started in a not so great spot…..so take control of those first few moments of the day.

Move Your Body.

Not only can you tone up that mom bod and feel good rocking a bikini, but you can release some serious energy boosts and endorphin rushes. You’ll be able to play with your kids easier, feel less out of breath, and feel more confident in yourself. And all that sweat and muscle building can play a big factor in reducing cortisol (that nasty stress hormone that can wreck havoc on your body & your sanity). P.S.-If you want 1:1 support with your health, check out #Nourished.

Eat Wholesome.

Those granola bars you grab and snack on cause their great for on the go, and the few bites of the kids leftover food that you are eating….are killing your energy.  The sluggish, exhausted, grab your 5th cup of coffee feeling….that we all want to rid of comes not just from the crazy amount of going that we need to keep up with the kids, but also from what we fuel our bodies with. Give it a clean diet and watch the energy increase (and maybe a few pounds will take a hike too!) P.S.-If you want 1:1 support with your health, check out #Nourished.

Say No.

It’s a hard one. I get it. I’m a doer too. But in order to be able to give my best to the people that mean the most (me and my family), I had to say no to some things.  Make yourself a priority scale. On the top of the scale, you put “absolutely wouldn’t miss it for the world, means the most to me” and on the bottom “I wouldn’t really realize if I missed it.” When you have a new opportunity or invite, evaluate where it falls on that scale.  Take into account the impact missing or attending would have on those that mean the most to you too.

Say Thanks.

When your kids are throwing themselves on the floor in the middle of Target, it can sometimes be a little challenging to keep your cool. The looks. The staring. It can make nearly ANY mom want to cringe and run. But try this out for me. Next time things are going less than stellar, take a moment and find something to be thankful for. And there’s ALWAYS something. Finding something to be grateful for can instantly change your focus and energy. I’d also encouraging writing down things you’re thankful for each night too. Kids are blessings, even when it feels like they are running our lives. When we start to reframe and focus on that…we can bring a little more calm and wellness to our souls.

Unplug.

The world WILL survive if you turn your phone off for a little while. Better yet, get out in nature and take a stroll. The outdoors and the “not being ON” with your phone can completely change your day. Going to the park with the kids while leaving the phone can behind can give both you and the kiddos some moments we tenderly need.

Get Creative.

You could draw, read a book, take some photos, paint. Whatever you enjoy that gives you a chance to focus on something creative.

Declutter.

The clutter reality is real. It creates anxiety, stress, and overwhelm.  We go to Target and immediately see all the really cool holiday and house decor that they so conveniently change out on a nearly weekly basis and think “I need this! This is beautiful.” Then it comes to our house, and it becomes something we have to clean, store, fix, and take care of.  Clear out some space. Learn to stop buying more.  Less IS more. Living a decluttered life can bring so much freedom to your life. Need more support with decluttering, check out my FREE 5 Steps to Break Free From Clutter.

 

And lastly, know that if you feel overwhelmed….it’s ok! Just take one step at a time to free yourself from overwhelm!

Comment below with something that you struggle with in regards to mama self care?

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Perfect Gifts for the Mom with Young Kids

Alrighty, we all know that moms usually aren’t the focus of Christmas. We love to give to our kids and others around us. But we love to feel valued too! These have been some of my FAVORITE things this last year and think any mom with young kids in your life will love these gifts this Christmas.

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  1. Instant Pot I never thought I’d need this. It was just one extra kitchen tool. But I was sooo wrong. It has replaced so many other kitchen tools (crockpot, rice cooker, yogurt maker, etc) that it has actually resulted in less clutter and ease. And let’s be real, we all need some easy meals (hence why we love using the crockpot). But have you ever noticed that sometimes crockpot meals just meld together and turn to mush?? When I use the pressure cooking setting on my Instant Pot, it doesn’t turn out that way. But you still get the melt off the bone sort of juiciness.
  2. Roomba Vacuum There have been mixed reviews regarding a robot vacuum because it does take some extra prep work (i.e. making sure no cords or toys are on the floor). BUT with 2 dogs and 3 kids, there is NO way I can keep up with the floor as often as it needs.  So while it may not be 100% effective, I can run it multiple times a day and tackle the ongoing floor mess without having to sweep non-stop.
  3. Bravva Mop Same goes for this one. This has become sort of a nightly routine.  Kids go to bed, toys are off the floor and away, and I turn the mop on and let it do it’s thing.  Then it frees me up to do things I want to do.  Every so often I still love to go through manually and do a mop job with my manual mop but this is so easy to keep up with.
  4. Canon Rebel Let’s be real….I love photos! And Mixbook often gets lots of my business printing up those photos into beautiful photobooks. I love my Canon 6D and loved the versatility (and pricepoint) of the rebel when I first started capturing moments. And our kids grow sooooo fast, we want to capture those moments.
  5. Date Night This is totally new to me but I’m super excited about it. My  first date night is on it’s way to me. It can be so hard for couples to get a night out, or even plan a date night in. So you can make it a priority by having those dates delivered right to you on a monthly basis. They have a Kids Night in and Faith Night in too!
  6. Beachbody on Demand This is THE way to go for fitness and sanity for a mom with young kids. No worries about child care and moms can not only feel better physically, gain more energy, but also create some space for a little self care.
  7. Massage or Pedicure: This always goes a long way with a mom of young kids! Especially if they don’t have to arrange childcare to go!
  8. Brazen or The Miracle Morning or Present over Perfect have been 2 of the most life changing books for me!
  9. Lipsense This stuff is AH-mazing! It’s lipstick that stays on all day long. It makes any mom feel dressed up and yet still totally kiss and snuggle proof.
  10. Wine Club I’m not a huge alcohol drinker but I do love relaxing with my hubs after the kids are in bed and drinking a nice glass of wine. (Discount for Black Friday weekend is 4 pack for price of 2!)
  11. Amazon PRIME OMG! I’m guessing every mom already has this but if she doesn’t it has been such a lifesaver for me. So many times I’ve ordered diapers or diaper cream or whatever and had it at my door the next day without having to load 3 kids in the car. It’s been especially helpful when we get sick and I try to not leave the house. (And the link gets you a discount on the monthly membership…like $5.99 for qualifying members).
  12. Kindle Paperwhite I admit this is one that I do not have but being that I love reading and spend so much money on books I would totally get this one!

And whenever shopping online, make sure you use EBATES. Not only do you get cash back but they’ll search for any coupon codes for you. It’s super awesome!

What would be on your wishlist?

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