In almost all areas of our lives, we frequently compare ourselves to others. It’s a poison to our system that we want to get rid of, yet we find it difficult to do so. We compare ourselves to others who we seem are doing ‘better,’ only to feel ‘less’ after. And then we turn to another whom we think are ‘less’ than us to make ourselves feel better. It’s just ugly! (Find out where we can get our pockets of joy.)
The irony is, we just want to feel connected, yet we isolate ourselves further through comparison. But did you know that there is a cure for this?
“Me-free” and humility
Whether it’s the sense of inadequacy or sense of superiority, the solution is humility. We let go of that pride of wanting to be better when we constantly try to humble ourselves.
And the awesome thing is that there’s a shortcut to letting go of comparison: the me-free perspective. When we approach others free of ourselves, free of wanting to elevate ourselves, we develop this freedom from our desire of making it all about us. We will start to acknowledge and appreciate each other’s differences, especially our own uniqueness. (Check out the road to self-love.)
Join Shannon and I in this episode for helpful tips on how we can achieve that “me-free” perspective and totally let go of comparison!
Other life-changing stuff you will learn in this episode…
- When do we unconsciously compare ourselves to others
- How can we use comparison to positively help ourselves
- How comparison relates to mom guilt
- Questions for ourselves to quickly get rid of comparison mindset
- Using our faith to get rid of unwanted thoughts
“Comparison robs us of all the ways we can inspire each other.” -Shannon Popkin
Remember that Jesus said, “the greatest, is the servant. And whoever humbles himself is exalted.” Thus, we get closer to God when we start pouring instead of measuring. So stop comparing and start inspiring!
Shannon Popkin is a writer, speaker, and Bible teacher who loves pointing others to the truth of God’s Word. She combines her gifts for humor and storytelling with her passion for Jesus. And she regularly speaks at Christian women’s events and retreats, encouraging women of all ages to put their hope in God.
Popkin is also a regular contributor for the Revive Our Hearts True Woman and Leader Connection blogs. Her articles have been published by Family Fun, Focus on the Family Magazine, MOMsense and others. And she is the author of several books. Some of them are, Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible; Influence: Building a Platform That Elevates Jesus (Not Me); and Comparison Girl: Lessons from Jesus on Me-Free Living in a Measure-Up World.
Popkin and her husband, Ken, have been married for more than twenty years. They live in West Michigan. And they have three children—one in high school and two in college.
Visit www.ComparisonGirl.com for more information on the book, companion guide, teaching series, etc.
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