How 30 Minutes a Day Changed My Life

I used to wake up exhausted.  I cried while on vacation because I was just so DONE! I was tired of the constant ON. While I love my kids, motherhood was hard…and exhausting.  Don’t get me wrong. I enjoyed my kids. But I felt like I could just never get a break.  I literally showered, slept, and went to the bathroom with someone at my feet.

I was in desperate need of self care but didn’t feel like I had the time, money, or energy to invest in myself.

There was always something that needed to be done, or someone that needed me.  It felt like I was asking for a lot and was nearly impossible. If you had asked me what I did for self care, I couldn’t give you an answer…and I’d probably have denied that I actually was in need of it.  And spend money doing it??…forget about it!

inside I was drowning but I didn’t want to admit it.

I felt overwhelmed and frustrated.  At times I thought I might have had postpartum depression but when I reached out to other moms, I found that I was just like the rest of them.  We were all struggling…frustrated, overwhelmed, exhausted, and feeling like we just “had to get through this season.” But why should we be okay with just getting through it? Just getting by? Life passes so freaking fast, why would I want to miss any of it? Why would I be okay with “getting through” the season of life when my kids are learning about the world for the first time?

then it happened…

Let’s be real…my motivation was the 25lbs of postpartum baby weight, but I decided to start a workout routine.  It was only 30 minutes.  It was something I could do from my living room during a nap.  I could pause if I needed when life called (and I often did!).  I had a plan for my nutrition. And above all that, I had a group of other women all doing it with me. Those first few weeks weren’t glamorous AT ALL.  Trust me….I look back and wonder why I kept going…and I probably wouldn’t have had it not been for my community. But that first 3 weeks, sparked something in me that I didn’t know I was missing.  I realized that it wasn’t selfish for me to take only a small fraction of my day to invest in myself.  In fact, it was THE absolute thing my family needed me to do so that I could go through the day with a little more patience and a little more love (for them and me!).

but I can’t lie to you…

I’d love to tell you that my fitness journey has done the trick. It’s solved all my self-care needs.  But it’d be a lie. Because while fitness was the catalyst and still something that I so need as a part of my day….the true self-care came when I started to love on my soul.  Fitness taught me that I could push past my limits. It encouraged me to grow.  I had to expose the areas of my life I was most weak so that I could refine them.  It gave me an opportunity to believe that I could do something impossible… to be the best person I could be.  I had to love myself first so that I could in turn love those around me.  And taking action to achieve my goals was no longer a wishful thought….dreaming is beautiful and amazing BUT it’s in the action where we see our results.  I can wish to lose the weight all I want but if I don’t make the choice to work out and eat well, nothing will change.  I can dream of a different life…more calm and patience, more freedom….but without the action nothing will change.

I invested $160 and 30 minutes a day for 3 weeks….and it literally changed the direction of my life. I would pay $5000 for the gains I’ve received since I started. It’s no longer about what I weigh, or how big around my belly is…but about the strength and endurance I’ve gained for this one and only life! It’s that first step…that first investment into yourself and taking action that matters.

Take a step.  DO something that pushes you outside of your comfort zone.  Love yourself a little more. And if you need support in the process, #Nourished is where you need to be.

 

Keep loving yourself!

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9 Tips To Stop Being #mamaOverwhelmed

We all here know self-care is important, but do we REALLY believe it. When you’re sitting there with baby spit up on your shirt, a toddler pooping on the floor, and no dinner on the table….thinking about self-care can be, well….nearly impossible.

But let me be honest with you mama…..I’ve been there. Exhausted. Wiped out. Depleted.  Running on caffeine.  Feeling like I was going to lose my freaking mind! I wanted to run away.  I found myself in tears on numerous occasions.  And I will admit, I locked myself in the bedroom door and left my kids to fend for themselves for awhile cause I was going to lose it.

Self-care is most important when we feel like it’s the last thing we can squeeze into life.

It doesn’t need to be a spa day away (although that would be nice). And it doesn’t need to be an evening out with the girlfriends (not going to dig that one either!)

But it needs to be consistent. Something that is a no-brainer win. Something that doesn’t take all day, but still leaves you feeling full and ready to go.

So here are my top 10 self-care practices that you can totally do.

Breathe.

This one may seem super simple and like “duh.” But you’d be surprised what a few deep breaths can do for your inner mama soul. It’s easy to take with you (cause your lungs ain’t leavin’) and can be done in seconds. Give it a little more and do it with your eyes close.

Meditate.

Pray. Meditate. Whichever you feel more inclined to.  Both allow you to be still, practice your inner calm, and focus on who you want to be.  Want to be a little more peaceful? Focus your prayer time towards that. Doing this first thing in the morning can have 10x the impact. And, I know you may not like it, BUT which means you may have to get up earlier.  The way you start your day sets the tone for the rest of the day. We’ve both had those days when you wake late, you spill your coffee, and you can’t get it together for THE rest of the day. Your energy started in a not so great spot…..so take control of those first few moments of the day.

Move Your Body.

Not only can you tone up that mom bod and feel good rocking a bikini, but you can release some serious energy boosts and endorphin rushes. You’ll be able to play with your kids easier, feel less out of breath, and feel more confident in yourself. And all that sweat and muscle building can play a big factor in reducing cortisol (that nasty stress hormone that can wreck havoc on your body & your sanity). P.S.-If you want 1:1 support with your health, check out #Nourished.

Eat Wholesome.

Those granola bars you grab and snack on cause their great for on the go, and the few bites of the kids leftover food that you are eating….are killing your energy.  The sluggish, exhausted, grab your 5th cup of coffee feeling….that we all want to rid of comes not just from the crazy amount of going that we need to keep up with the kids, but also from what we fuel our bodies with. Give it a clean diet and watch the energy increase (and maybe a few pounds will take a hike too!) P.S.-If you want 1:1 support with your health, check out #Nourished.

Say No.

It’s a hard one. I get it. I’m a doer too. But in order to be able to give my best to the people that mean the most (me and my family), I had to say no to some things.  Make yourself a priority scale. On the top of the scale, you put “absolutely wouldn’t miss it for the world, means the most to me” and on the bottom “I wouldn’t really realize if I missed it.” When you have a new opportunity or invite, evaluate where it falls on that scale.  Take into account the impact missing or attending would have on those that mean the most to you too.

Say Thanks.

When your kids are throwing themselves on the floor in the middle of Target, it can sometimes be a little challenging to keep your cool. The looks. The staring. It can make nearly ANY mom want to cringe and run. But try this out for me. Next time things are going less than stellar, take a moment and find something to be thankful for. And there’s ALWAYS something. Finding something to be grateful for can instantly change your focus and energy. I’d also encouraging writing down things you’re thankful for each night too. Kids are blessings, even when it feels like they are running our lives. When we start to reframe and focus on that…we can bring a little more calm and wellness to our souls.

Unplug.

The world WILL survive if you turn your phone off for a little while. Better yet, get out in nature and take a stroll. The outdoors and the “not being ON” with your phone can completely change your day. Going to the park with the kids while leaving the phone can behind can give both you and the kiddos some moments we tenderly need.

Get Creative.

You could draw, read a book, take some photos, paint. Whatever you enjoy that gives you a chance to focus on something creative.

Declutter.

The clutter reality is real. It creates anxiety, stress, and overwhelm.  We go to Target and immediately see all the really cool holiday and house decor that they so conveniently change out on a nearly weekly basis and think “I need this! This is beautiful.” Then it comes to our house, and it becomes something we have to clean, store, fix, and take care of.  Clear out some space. Learn to stop buying more.  Less IS more. Living a decluttered life can bring so much freedom to your life. Need more support with decluttering, check out my FREE 5 Steps to Break Free From Clutter.

 

And lastly, know that if you feel overwhelmed….it’s ok! Just take one step at a time to free yourself from overwhelm!

Comment below with something that you struggle with in regards to mama self care?

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