“If I have a clean house, I’m neglecting my Kids”
I’ve been there in the throes of balancing a toddler in the flour bin, a preschooler with legos all over the kitchen table, and my eldest painting my bathroom sink with soapy water. While you’re cleaning one mess, another one is being created. When the tornado of kid just ravages through….it can be down right exhausting. But when we start to get rid of the stuff we’re constantly spending our time cleaning, we have less stuff to pick up. And then…you now magically have more time to spend with your kids. Less stuff=cleaner house+happy kids….truly
“But I can’t get rid of this because I may need it someday”
I throw my hands up guilty about this one! Frugal to my core. Between me and my husband, we’d save anything, clip any coupon, find any deal, you name it to save a quick buck. And we could still never get ahead. But there’s this funny thing about gratitude, abundance, and the universe. When we act out of a place of lack, we lose trust that we’ll be taken care of, we don’t give freely of our time and money to others, and we start to hoard. Trust me when I say….gratitude and trusting that you will have all of your needs met is a WAY better place to be. God has always pulled through in some way for me. Holding on to things “just in case” shows my lack of trust in his provision.
“But this has sentimental value…it’s irreplaceable”
I’m a memory fiend. And I LOVE pictures…so I take a LOT. I’ve found a few simple ways to save my memories through film. But what about those baby books, locks of hair, passed down china? What do we do with those? Some of these things TRULY may be irreplaceable….(like a lock of hair from your baby’s first haircut). But what joy are they bringing you each day? Or what joy will they bring you in the future. We tuck these treasures away. They’re out of sight and out of mind till we stumble across that box full of stuff and then back into the box they go again. If you really can’t part with it, place it out on display. Make it something you can see and enjoy each day.
“I have to keep it because it was a gift”
When I give a gift, I want that person to love it. And if they don’t, I want them to feel like there’s no hard feelings in exchanging it, taking it back, or passing it along. What’s the point in keeping a gift that you won’t use or love? 99% of the time, the gift giver would rather you love and enjoy your gift than hold onto something just because they gave it to you. Acknowledge that they showed their love to you in GIVING you a gift, not in the actual gift itself. And next time you need to give a gift to someone…re-evaluate if it’s a gift you think they will truly love or if you’re just giving it out of obligation. If it’s out of obligation…..scratch it and avoid adding clutter to their life.
“It takes so much time to declutter because I have to be so organized and that just ain’t me”
Cleaning takes a ton of time…but decluttering….well, it has a lot of time on the front end but AFTER you’ve created some space and got rid of the stuff that’s filling up random spaces in your home, that’s when you start to realize the freedom you gain. This is NOT about just reorganizing your stuff and having a cutesy little system in place. While being organized is helpful, it has more to do with getting rid of the stuff that weighs you down in the first place. And when you get rid of stuff, you clean less, and when you clean less, you have more time, and when you have more time you’re able to do the things that make you happier, and when you do the things that make you happy, you love life!
What are some of your objections to decluttering?