Who are you…really?
Who do you want your kids to know you as? Take some time and think about it. That can transform your life and plant the seeds of who you truly are.
If you go too fast through life and keep going it stops you from feeling and from getting to know yourself. When you are go, go, go, it stifles who you are and your creativity.
You need to remember who you are and declutter your life. Take out the unneeded pieces. For example, you don’t need to volunteer everywhere to impact the world.
How do you start to find yourself?
Ensure you engage in rituals that keep you true to who you are. Maybe take a walk every day, or journal, do what you need for yourself. Even if it’s only for 15-20 minutes. Get to know who you are, not who the world thinks you are, or who you think you should be, but who you really, really are and keep up with it.
It’s a journey of loving yourself so you can then turn that love to the outside world. We are not here to change others, we are here to be us and to teach our kids how to do that for themselves too.
Kathryn the Grape – Affirmation Book Series
This book series is 7 books, 7 affirmations and tools to express who you really are that are easy to understand for kids and the parents reading along. They help you learn to say how you feel so it doesn’t come out in anger.
We all need to be able to express how we feel and be more open to how others feel so we can be more empathetic and understanding of other’s emotions too.
We are examples to our kids
If we, as moms are a hot mess, that will replicate in our kids. We are an example to our kids and they need to hear us apologize when we mess up too. Even if we don’t agree with why they are feeling a certain emotion, we can accept that they do have that emotion and be an example of how to support them and be empathetic. If necessary, apologize that what you did or said caused them to be upset. It might not be a big deal to you, but it is to your kids and you need to validate their feelings.
Teach your kids gratitude by being an example. Be grateful for who you are and what you do have rather than being part of the social comparison. It’s easy to be grateful when everything is going our way. The true nature of gratitude is appreciating things even when they don’t go your way. You can teach them delayed gratification too. “Do you want that toy that everyone else has or do you want to save the money and go to Disneyland?”
Get rid of the “supposed to” lie. Your life looks different than everyone else’s. We each have our own canvas that we are painting of our lives. We can go to bed each night and know that we gave it our all and that was enough. Get rid of “supposed” and learn to say “no” more!
It’s easy to over-commit when you don’t understand the difference between what you want and what the world wants. Ask yourself, “what do I need today?” and really think about it and answer it, then give that to yourself. It’s not selfish, it’s taking care of yourself and doing what you need to be the best you for you and for your family.
Tell your friends, and tell yourself that you are okay.
Kathryn Cloward is a purposeful messenger of love and a trailblazing woman on a mission. She is the founder and CEO of Kandon Unlimited, Inc., a heart-centered mindful media company purposeful about creating and producing positive and empowering media for people of all ages. Weaving together her channeled creativity with two decades of entrepreneurial business leadership, Kathryn has earned national praise as an author, songwriter, publisher, producer, and altruistic entrepreneur.
Her award-winning Kathryn the Grape® Affirmation Series helps people of all ages, children especially, understand and express their feelings. Kathryn’s purposeful series has been honored with five 2017 Family Choice Awards and five 2017 Mom’s Choice Awards; “I Am Happy Being Me” earned Best Children’s Song of the Year at the 2017 IMC Awards; and her book, Kathryn the Grape’s Kindness Confetti, was recognized as the 2017 Best Children’s Fiction Book by the San Diego Book Association Awards.
If you’re looking for additional ways to cultivate emotional intelligence in your kids, check out the Peacemaker Cards.