How 30 Minutes a Day Changed My Life

I used to wake up exhausted.  I cried while on vacation because I was just so DONE! I was tired of the constant ON. While I love my kids, motherhood was hard…and exhausting.  Don’t get me wrong. I enjoyed my kids. But I felt like I could just never get a break.  I literally showered, slept, and went to the bathroom with someone at my feet.

I was in desperate need of self care but didn’t feel like I had the time, money, or energy to invest in myself.

There was always something that needed to be done, or someone that needed me.  It felt like I was asking for a lot and was nearly impossible. If you had asked me what I did for self care, I couldn’t give you an answer…and I’d probably have denied that I actually was in need of it.  And spend money doing it??…forget about it!

inside I was drowning but I didn’t want to admit it.

I felt overwhelmed and frustrated.  At times I thought I might have had postpartum depression but when I reached out to other moms, I found that I was just like the rest of them.  We were all struggling…frustrated, overwhelmed, exhausted, and feeling like we just “had to get through this season.” But why should we be okay with just getting through it? Just getting by? Life passes so freaking fast, why would I want to miss any of it? Why would I be okay with “getting through” the season of life when my kids are learning about the world for the first time?

then it happened…

Let’s be real…my motivation was the 25lbs of postpartum baby weight, but I decided to start a workout routine.  It was only 30 minutes.  It was something I could do from my living room during a nap.  I could pause if I needed when life called (and I often did!).  I had a plan for my nutrition. And above all that, I had a group of other women all doing it with me. Those first few weeks weren’t glamorous AT ALL.  Trust me….I look back and wonder why I kept going…and I probably wouldn’t have had it not been for my community. But that first 3 weeks, sparked something in me that I didn’t know I was missing.  I realized that it wasn’t selfish for me to take only a small fraction of my day to invest in myself.  In fact, it was THE absolute thing my family needed me to do so that I could go through the day with a little more patience and a little more love (for them and me!).

but I can’t lie to you…

I’d love to tell you that my fitness journey has done the trick. It’s solved all my self-care needs.  But it’d be a lie. Because while fitness was the catalyst and still something that I so need as a part of my day….the true self-care came when I started to love on my soul.  Fitness taught me that I could push past my limits. It encouraged me to grow.  I had to expose the areas of my life I was most weak so that I could refine them.  It gave me an opportunity to believe that I could do something impossible… to be the best person I could be.  I had to love myself first so that I could in turn love those around me.  And taking action to achieve my goals was no longer a wishful thought….dreaming is beautiful and amazing BUT it’s in the action where we see our results.  I can wish to lose the weight all I want but if I don’t make the choice to work out and eat well, nothing will change.  I can dream of a different life…more calm and patience, more freedom….but without the action nothing will change.

I invested $160 and 30 minutes a day for 3 weeks….and it literally changed the direction of my life. I would pay $5000 for the gains I’ve received since I started. It’s no longer about what I weigh, or how big around my belly is…but about the strength and endurance I’ve gained for this one and only life! It’s that first step…that first investment into yourself and taking action that matters.

Take a step.  DO something that pushes you outside of your comfort zone.  Love yourself a little more. And if you need support in the process, #Nourished is where you need to be.

 

Keep loving yourself!

xoxo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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7 Signs that You Need Self-Care

How you know you need self care? When do you know you’ve been pushed too far? And what do you do about it when it happens?

Moms are known for being the worst at indulging in some self-care.  As soon as we’re given that tiny bundle of joy, we immediately begin to sacrifice…time, sleep, focus, going out, clean laundry, a decent meal. The problem is that over time….that much selfless giving turns into MonsterMom. Trust me, I’ve been there, and she ain’t pretty. You truly aren’t doing the best for your kids if you don’t take care of yourself first.

So here are 8 signs that you might be in need of a little time for yourself.

You’re reaching for the coffee 5 times a day.

When you’re just completely drained and relying on other means to keep you going, you need not only some more sleep, but a good dose of good nutrition and exercise to boost your natural energy boosters.

You’re thinking of the 1 million things you have to do.

We’re always going to have a list.  But if you can’t turn it off and relax, that’s when you’re going to get yourself into trouble.

It’s been 3 days since your last shower.

Now it’s one thing if you just naturally smell of roses, but for me…if I haven’t showered in 3 days, it’s more likely mama neglect.  And trust me, the people around you will be thankful you’ve practiced a little self-care too.

Exercise consists of pacing back and forth to get the baby to sleep.

Where can we squeeze in 30 minutes of exercise, right? I get it. I remember asking if walking at work would suffice as working out (the consensus was “no” btw). Boosting your activity just a little bit can do wonders for your energy, confidence, sleep, and strength.

You’re bouncing between #allthethings and not getting anything accomplished.

Call it “chasing shiny objects” or “SQUIRREL!” or just simply “juggling it all,” it’s all the same.  It’s called multi-tasking.  And man on man does research show that it just doesn’t work.  Focus, mama! You need to take a few breaks and focus on just one task so that you can actually get something done.

You’re easily snappy at the hubs and the kids.

Well, hello, monster mom. And not just the time of the month monster mom. But the monster mom all-the-time-mom.  When those little things, like the finger prints on the windows really irk you….When you start to get on your kids for their mistakes instead of giving them a little bit of grace.

Each day feels like another day on the hamster wheel.

I whole heartedly believe that you and I were both made to live and love to our utmost potential.  I don’t believe life is meant to be “just lived.”  I believed we’re made to live in abundance and excitement.  When you start to dread waking the next morning…you need to take a little reset.

 

If you said “yes” to any of these, you need to go read my post a few weeks ago….9 Tips to Avoid #mamaOverwhelmed.

And share this post with someone who needs a little TLC.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Why You Should NOT Workout Everyday?

I’m going to tell you why you should NOT workout. Yup, these are the reasons you should NOT exercise on a daily basis. If any of these are you, then just keep on skipping your workouts. Working out is NOT for you.

Working out can cause the following side effects:

Increased Energy

If you wake each morning with boundless amounts of energy, then you don’t need the energy rush from a good workout. Heed the warning: if you work out, you may have enough energy to get breakfast ready, the laundry done, the dishes put away AND still have energy to play with the kids at the park (without the 3pm caffeine shot).

Decreased Stress

Stress can feel great, can’t it? When you have that heavy weight on your shoulders from taking care of it all, it makes us….stronger? But if you’re not wanting to decrease any stress in your life, be sure to avoid the sweat sesh.

Increase Your Sex Drive

This is a serious side effect, ladies.  Be sure your hubs doesn’t find out about this one. But that increased energy and decreased stress, and additional hormones running around your body can make you a little more ready to go at night.

Increase Your Strength

Lugging around 3 kids, a stroller, snacks, and diaper bags is a piece of cake. And those times when you run a toddler down the beach to a bathroom while carrying an infant? Who wants to have the strength to perform such a task??

Increased Lifespan

While a good sweat session can’t take the credit entirely, this is definitely a side effect you need to consider when partaking in this activity.

Positive Mood

Watch out! Those endorphins and hormones can eliminate your sit in frustration, grouchy with the kids and hubs, sort of mood.

A Better Community

While some people work out solo, lots of people work out with at least 1 other person. Or maybe you’re like the women over in the #Nourished Group who help keep each other accountable throughout the year. That would lead to a workout friend(s) which then leads to community….and we all know what can happen with that

Boosted Immunity

A runny nose and being down for the count is a right of passage every winter, right? Who wants to avoid that?

So heed my caution and consider whether or not these side effects are worth it for you or not. Share this post if you have a friend that needs to head the Workout Warning!

xoxo-Renae